When Was the Last Time You Were Naked?

Yup. You heard that right. I’m being blunt tonight. Don’t get your panties (pun intended) in a twist. I’m not turning nudist or going crazy. An NO I won’t be recording any Ask Roni videos in the buff so don’t even ask.

I don’t think I’m alone when I say I’ve been MORE then modest my entire life. I feared the locker room at gym class. I would never wear a bathing suit without a t-shirt. I don’t like low cut shirts or short skirts. I never took a bath without bubbles.

Anyone nodding with me yet?

I’m going to remove “Fat” and “Skinny” from this conversation because I’ve been both and I’ve felt the same way in either “state”. I truly believe this “modest feeling” has little or nothing to do with the number on the scale. I believe it runs deeper than that. Much deeper.

I’ve posted before about self-acceptance and how much I believe it must happen before you will ever fully succeed at any weight loss attempt. And I’m not lying when I said…

I literally looked in the mirror and said …

“Ok, Roni, that’s it. Look at you. This is YOU. And that’s okay. You are making changes to be a healthier, more active person. Your body will change in the process but you need to accept yourself now. It’s the only way.”

The little detail I omitted in that post what that I did that exercise totally naked. I realized I rarely looked at my body in the nude. It’s like I disconnected from it. I hid from it. Constantly worried about how I looked but never really looking. I was ashamed of my own body and I avoided it like the plague.

Avoided my own body! How ludicrous does that sound?!? But it’s totally true.

I’m not saying I’m “cured” of this and am now completely comfortable in my skin but I am making progress.

How?

I spend more time naked.

Blunt enough for ya?

Again, I’m not going crazy and have no plans to visit a nudist beach anytime in the future but I truly believe spending time in your skin can be a baby step towards a healthier body image.

So when was the last time YOU were naked? An NO your morning shower doesn’t count. 

Originally published on Roni’s Weigh

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05.13.2010
tara lindsay
I'm getting much better at this! We joined a gym last month, and I started to notice that because I was taking care of myself, I was no longer thinking about the scale. I have become more confident b/c I last longer on the machines, I'm stronger in my upper body, and I have so much more energy. Looking at myself naked has ALWAYS been an issue for me (and I've been every weight possible), but it's getting easier everyday. I assume it has to do with working out to get stronger as opposed to just become lighter on the scale, but it could also have to do with becoming wiser w/age, too. I see things a lot differently now that I'm in my late 30's. My priorities are more in line with my convictions now; can't say that they were in my 20's. Btw, my sister does everything nude till she's ready to leave the house...even packs for vacations in the nude! Can you imagine? Me either! :)
I enjoyed your article and agree with you 100%. It's a hard thing to like ourselves without our clothes but it is one step (or look) at a time, and soon we'll be comfortable in our own skin(nakedness). Thanks for putting it out there.
02.23.2010
Johnica Dingus
I have to agree with you 100%. I read in quite a few self help/spirituality books that we are the ones who stop ourselves from losing weight. You can do whatever you like but if you dont accept yourself you will not succeed in losing weight. Here is the layman's theory: Subconsciously you hate yourself and your looks, consciously you tell yourself you are losing weight no matter what. Here's what happens. Our subconscious rules our world . Kind of like in the bible when it loosely says "whatever a person believes in their heart then so shall it be" basically you can confess with your mouth but if it isn't in your heart then it wont happen. So when you stand in front of the mirror and say that you will lose weight but that old fear kicks in and says "yeah right" then you will not have any luck because you have already admitted defeat in your mind. Now if you do as Roni says and really accept yourself and believe in YOU, then you've got it girl, and guess what? You can flaunt it.
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